Raising the Dating Bar Blog
Raising the Dating Bar Blog
Learn about online dating how-tos, dos and don’ts, handling the ups and downs and having fun — all as I see it from my own experiences.

Why And How To Background Check Your Dates
In this day and age, it's common to do a little digging into a person you are dating or planning on dating. In fact, it's to be expected. A little transparency is important in dating. It's important to feel safe and to know a little bit about what you're getting into....
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How To Craft An Opening Email When Online Dating
The goal of your online dating profile is to spark intrigue and to get conversations started. One of the most challenging parts of online dating getting the conversation started. I'm sure many if not all have experienced this. You search online, read through profiles...

Ghosting Happens. Roll With It.
As a seasoned online dater I have grown accustomed to the phenomenon termed “ghosting.” This is when you are texting/talking/seeing someone to all of a sudden never hear from them again. This loosely applies mostly to someone you thought was really interested. In...

Thoughts On Planning The First Date
I have a certain way I like to approach planning first dates. I actually refer to them as “pre-dates.” To me, real dates start after I’ve decided 100%, ok, this is someone I’d like to spend time with and to get to know. Pre-dates are simple. It’s coffee, drinks or...

Rejection Is A Part Of Dating. Don’t Let It Bother You.
Rejection is a part of dating. You will be rejected, and you will reject others. It’s not a fun word, it’s not a fun feeling and it adds a lot of difficulty to your dating experience. But, if you let it get you down, if you feed on the negative feelings it creates,...

What I Mean When I Say Don’t Talk About Your Ex
When two people start dating there is usually this awkward cloud looming: The “ex cloud.” It’s one of those taboo topics, right? You have an ex, or exes - you've been in past relationships…. And, you never know what to share and when or how to bring it up. Some of you...

Avoid These Profile Mistakes (Part III)
One day, my awesome, funny, witty, and, above all, sarcastic friend scrolled through some dating profiles on match.com. Below are her thoughts and mine. As I keep mentioning, when writing your online dating profile, think about how others might right between the...

Avoid These Profile Mistakes (Part II)
Working on a post that exemplifies what not to write in a dating profile is always a most amusing exercise. I laugh, I cry, I'm outraged. But, ultimately, I'm disappointed. Because behind these poorly written profiles are probably countless great people. Yes, online...

Avoid These Profile Mistakes (Part I)
There are lots of thoughts and opinions out there about what’s right and what’s wrong with online dating profiles. Below are my thoughts and my opinions on what should be avoided. Statements like these don’t make for great online dating profile. Be thoughtful about...