Writing Your Online Dating Profile?
Are you new to online dating and struggling with all the dos and don’ts of what to write? Or, maybe you’ve been online dating for a while and not getting the traction you hoped for?
When online dating, your profile is the one thing you can 100% control. It’s important to pay attention to what you are doing. It’s important to be thoughtful and deliberate.
As an online dating profile writer and after writing thousands of online dating profiles these are my best pro tips.
Readability and Formatting
Believe it or not, formatting is important when writing your online dating profile.
In summary, you will grab attention with an easy-to-read, well-outlined dating profile. People are impatient and they don’t want to decipher your writing. Use paragraph breaks, limit punctuation, don’t use emojis, and proofread for spelling errors and other typos.
For more in depth information on this topic read this post: How To Format Your Online Dating Profile.
Use Your Best Headlines
Your online dating profile doesn’t have to “sound” like you. Anyone reading your profile for the first time, while knowing absolutely nothing about you, cannot possibly truly determine how you sound. So, keep it simple, there’s no need to ramble.
Summarize what you want to share.
Examples
Instead of:
I’m proud of taking a risk by deciding to go to massage school (my parents were skeptical and had doubts) and becoming a successful massage therapist with a loyal clientele. I’m also proud of myself for sticking with yoga for a decade, even though my first class was a hot mess. I kept going back and trying my best. I’m not a master at all the poses but I’m certainly not a beginner anymore.
Say this:
I love my career and I work hard to reach my goals. I’m proud of my achievements and always being the best I can be.
Once you start conversations with people you will have plenty of time to elaborate and sound like yourself.
Be Bold and Use Adjectives
Be descriptive! Use the words you want to describe yourself. Tell people about your personality and what makes you tick. Share your feelings about things and what you value most in life. Put it out there. In the end it may not even be about what you said, but that you had the confidence to say it. Who isn’t looking for a confident partner?
Examples
I am a jovial energetic man.
Or
I have a grounded personality and making mindful decisions is important to me.
Need help? Use the thesaurus to find your favorite words.
Be Positive
Strong positive language is powerful. So is negative. Which direction would you rather go? Which would you rather see when reading other online dating profiles?
Pick positive prompts and focus on what you do want instead of what you don’t want.
Examples
It’s easy to say something like:
No smoking, drinking or drugs.
Instead write:
I’d like to meet someone who lives a healthy active lifestyle.
Morphing These Concepts and Putting It All Together
Overall, what you are trying to do is capture the notion of yourself.
What is a notion? A general understanding or conveying an impression.
There are three meanings to any word.
- Your meaning.
- Their meaning.
- General meaning. A collective comprehensive agreement, or what’s in the dictionary.
Examples
- What jovial means to you: Dancing on the bar right before closing time.
- What jovial means to another: Dancing at a Taylor Swift concert.
- Jovial in the dictionary: Full of happiness. Cheerful
When you put it all together you are showing your reader that you care about online dating. If you don’t care about making a good impression, you might appear like you don’t care about dating. Anyone serious about dating and meeting the right person is going to care that the other person cares as well.
Don’t make what I think is the biggest mistake when writing your online dating profile.
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See lots more writing tips and samples.
Order my book from Amazon: How To Write A Great Online Dating Profile.
Within, you will find my best tips and strategies, including dos and don’ts, before and after examples, and a template to follow. There is also advice on which photos to choose and how to craft email messages. You will also find full written samples and a questionnaire to use for idea generation.
Also: The Mindful Dating Path.
I designed this dating journal to help you process thoughts and feelings as they relate to who you are deciding to spend time with. This journal is a mix of guided prompts and plenty of free flow. You may want to view it as a mix of a plain journal and an interactive workbook. The prompts are recurrent based on Date 1, Date 2, Date 3 and more.
If you are someone thinking about trying online dating or giving it another go with a different approach, check out the Packages and Pricing Page and start dating with a great online dating profile.
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