Happily married now, I’m so grateful that the internet connected me to the love of my life. It took time, and I had my own ups and downs, but it was worth it in the end, for so many reasons. But, this post isn’t about me, or for me. It’s about YOU and for YOU.
If you are someone who is apprehensive about online dating, keep reading, your perspective may sway.
Online dating has been around for 20+ years, yet it’s still makes people anxious. Or, they feel embarrassed and ashamed. There’s no reason to feel either way.
Online dating is normal, it’s what people do now. It’s ‘new school’ vs. ‘old school.’ It’s a wonderful way to meet someone! Ultimately, the experience is what you make of it. If you’re going to go into it expecting an unpleasant experience, then that’s probably what will exactly happen. If you go into it with an open mind, you might be pleasantly surprised how fun and exciting it can be.
New to online dating and wondering who else is out there? Some of you might feel alone because most people in your immediate life aren’t single and still dating. So, you’re not sure how to relate.
This post is for those of you who do feel some apprehension and for those of you who don’t, it’s a reminder. I want to share with you who my clients are. I hear all the time about how there’s “no one good out there.” Well, I beg to differ. I write online dating profiles for amazing men and women every day. All people genuine in their search and their intentions. And, if there’s one, there’s one thousand.
In 5 years, I’ve written thousands of profiles for people from all sorts of different walks of life.
For starters, my clients range all over the age spectrum, both men and women from 21 to 80. They are divorced, never been married, widowed, gay, and lesbian.
Men and women who haven’t dated in 20+ years because they’re either recently divorced after many years of marriage, or after their divorce they devoted their time to family instead of their dating life. My very first client was a divorcee with 10 kids.
My clients have ranged over all sorts of professions: Business owners, engineers, doctors, lawyers, real estate developers, Reiki practitioners, airline pilots, teachers, accountants, cyber security experts, software developers, tour guides, long-haul truck drivers, military vets, carpenters, construction workers, musicians, food truck owners, etc.
A few had various health challenges, which of course, didn’t get them down! Some who are in wheelchairs, blind, deaf, suffer from MS, recovering drug addicts, and some who worked hard to lose 100 pounds.
They all live various lifestyles and have many interests/hobbies: World travelers, homebodies, athletes, body builders, yogis, book nerds, movie buffs, concert goers, museum enthusiast, art enthusiasts, wine connoisseurs, hobby pilots, gardeners, interior designers, painters, piano players, guitar players, YouTube creators, etc. This list could go on and on – these are just quick off the top of my head.
Race and Ethnicities: White, Black, Canadian, Australian, Dutch, Danish, Swedish, German, Spanish, Puerto Rican, Indian, Russian, Italian, Pakistani, New Zealanders and so many others I wasn’t directly aware of.
I’ve written profiles for those looking for serious relationships/marriage, and those looking for something casual. Folks using popular sites like Match, eHarmony, Tinder, and Bumble. Special interest sites like ChristianMingle, MeetMindful,OurTime, HER, Gridr, as well as sites like SugarDaddy and MillionaireMatch. There have even been a few who were using professional match making services.
As you can see, from just this little bit of information, that you are not alone. Again, there are people from all walks of life out there looking for a special someone. Just like you.
At the end of the day, you have to keep in mind, not everyone is for us, and we are not for everyone either. If someone isn’t the right fit, does that make them a no-good person? Not anymore than we ourselves are. However, that’s the conclusion people usually draw and how the negative attitude starts. If they see people online, or even meet people out, who don’t fit a certain vision then the automatic deduction is ‘there’s no one good’ out there.
Someone recently complained to me about a “scumbag” who reached out to them. This person was deemed a scumbag because they immediately brought up that they were only interested in casual sexual relationship. To me, that’s anyone prerogative and it doesn’t make them a scumbag. I also don’t knock people for being upfront and honest from the get-go. I understand, though. When you’re a person who’s looking for a long-term, deep, committed, romantic relationship, it can be disconcerting when this is the message you receive from someone. But, I don’t feel that it’s cause for upset toward online dating as a whole, or the rest of the people who are out there who are looking for the same thing as you.
I’m a person who gets to meet many of you in an indirect way. You fill out a questionnaire and I use the answers to compose an easy-to-read, congruent, online dating profile that allows other to get an idea of who you are and to spark interest.
Never once have I thought, ‘wow, this person is a dud.’ Everyone is interesting and unique in their own way. Everyone has something to offer, and everyone is the right fit for someone else. Just like you.