I met a guy once who told me that if he were diagnosed with a terminal illness he’d use it as a freebee to commit murder.
What? Who thinks of something like that? A bitter angry A-hole, that’s who.
That is the kind of toxic person I like to rid from my life.
I am an optimistic, upbeat, positive, glass half full kind of gal. I believe in the universe and what energy we put out is the energy we get back.
I find it disheartening when I’m accused of being naïve and innocent because of my positive outlook. I assure you, I am neither. I think the negative people who call themselves “realistic” don’t know or understand what having a positive outlook actually is.
I do not live in a land of unicorns and rainbows. Gumdrops don’t fall from the sky. Little fairies don’t float around sprinkling happy dust. I live on earth, people.
What I am is a person who takes lemons and makes lemonade. I am not a victim of circumstance.
I problem solve. I don’t dwell. I shrug off the things I can’t control. If I hit a snag I think, ok, how do I fix this? Where do I go from here? I focus on the bright side of the situation. I put my big girl pants on and get through it.
Bad things have happened to me. I far from live a perfect life (what I consider perfect). And, I have my moments. I believe we are allowed to have our moments. We still have to let ourselves feel what we need to feel, but at some point, we have to let go. I’m not going to stay stuck in that moment. I don’t wallow in self-pity.
The guy I mentioned above would also do that. He was still upset about things that had happened to him 10 years ago. Get over it dude, focus on now and what you do have instead of what you don’t. It’s tough to move into the future when you are stuck in the past.
People with positive attitudes simply don’t let anger get to them or control them. That does not make us unrealistic. That makes us fighters and go-getters. It allows us to enjoy life and the precious moments we have. We use our energy to make the best out of a situation instead of using it to cry woe is me.
We all have baggage, it’s how we handle it that it’s important. Are we going to let circumstances control us or are we going to control how we react to our circumstances? It’s a choice, believe it or not. Life is tough sometimes and there are going to be things we wish didn’t happen. The question is, what are you going to do about it? Waste time being miserable? Or find a way to fight through it? And, be happy in the long run.