Working on a post which demonstrates what not to write in a dating profile is always an amusing exercise. I laugh, I cry, but mostly I’m disappointed. Because behind poorly written online dating profiles is probably a really great person.
Yes, online dating is frustrating. However, if you give any consideration to what you are doing, maybe the outcome would be different. Online dating is what WE make of it. All the dating sites are just platforms. It’s up to us to build our brand.
Here are some of my favorite examples of what not to write in your dating profile (all copied verbatim). These are men’s profiles and messages from men on match.com.
I got an email the other day from “Joey.” He writes, “I was wondering if you would like to talk a little bit if you’re interested mail me back, and we can find out a little more out about each other. I hope to hear back from you. Joey”
Total form letter. I bet 100 bucks Joey copies and pastes that message into every email he sends. I also wouldn’t be surprised if he sends it to every single girl he can just to see what happens. While I get that dating is partially a numbers game, I also like to know the men I date are selective and want to meet those who are most likely right for them.
I’m a benefit of the doubt person, so I continue to view his profile. He says this about himself: I’m a ‘tell it like it is’ person. Have a sense of humor. Looking for someone to enjoy the things I like.
So, what is it you like, Joey? I’m all for a bit of ambiguity and intrigue. In fact, I incorporate that a lot into the profiles I write. However, to basically say nothing at all, especially when your criteria lies solely in having the same interests? It also sounds like women are only allowed to like exactly what he likes. C’mon.
Joey is probably pissed that no one will write him back. He’s probably also confused and doesn’t understand. It’s all the online dating platform’s fault! He’s not to blame.
My eyes popped out at this next one!
Please do not continue to read if you are not over your Ex, you have commitment issues, are in a relationship, have enough baggage for a small village, are in jail, have multiple personalities, are a pyromaniac, have more than three duck face pictures in your profile, or lie cheat and steal.*
*while you still might be able to be a productive member(s) of society and everyone has some baggage, let’s just not kid ourselves into thinking it might work out.
Woah! Bitter much? He even had a disclaimer! However, his profile does nothing for sharing who he is and what he’s all about. Complaining about women and dating is not going to get you a date. (But, hey, thanks for the insight into what women are doing wrong)
Lastly:
It’s way too difficult to have a conversation on this site. I keep reaching out but can’t get a response. Why is this? Is everyone on here taken? Lol.
The rest of this guy’s profile wasn’t that bad towards the end, but the way he starts out is. I don’t want to talk to a guy who is down on himself. Woe is me. No one messages me, boohoo. Have some confidence. Don’t knock the system. If you don’t like it, don’t do it.
If you are anything like me, you are busy. You genuinely care about dating and sincerely want to meet your special someone, but dating is one more thing you have to put on your ‘to do’ list. Time is precious, and you don’t want to waste it on someone who seems like a dud right off the bat. You have standards, and you also want the people you meet to have them.
Don’t miss out on a great person who wants to meet you because you have a bad online dating profile.
There are many opinions out there about how your profile should be. In my humble opinion, the best thing you can do is show you care. Be thoughtful and be confident. There you have it. Now that you know what not to write in your dating profile, you can get starting writing!
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