We date for one reason: To find companionship, whether long-term or short-term. Your dating goals are up to you. Everyone has a right to what they want and what they are looking for.
Sometimes, maybe most of the time, it’s tough being single. There’s a lot of negative societal stigma. We are afraid people see us as losers because we aren’t in a relationship. We often feel like we are less worthy than others because no one has chosen to love us (yet).
But, it’s just not true. It’s especially not true if you don’t want it to be. You can either chose to be down on yourself because you’re still single, or you can make the best of it while you wait for your perfect person to come along.
Having a life partner does not equate happiness, nor does it equate fulfillment. Being in a relationship enhances your already fulfilled life, or at least it should. I’m a true believer that if we live our lives for ourselves first, we will be much better partners. If we learn to create our own happiness then we stop looking toward another to create that happiness for us.
Of course, it’s not always easy, especially when longing for something gets in the way. But, it is doable. I work on this myself every day. I continually cultivate my relationships with my friends and with my family. I have hobbies that I love. I volunteer and advocate for causes that are important to me. And, I travel.
I commit to creating experiences for myself, and for as long as I have to do that by myself, I will.
I focus on my small accomplishments and achievements. I’m always so proud of myself when I figure out, ‘I got this.’
I also believe that since I’ve learned I can rely on myself, I will, in turn, keep that kind of burden out of my next relationship. I think putting that kind of pressure on another person can weigh a relationship down.
However, when I say, be a happy single, I don’t mean be Mr./Ms. Tough guy. I don’t mean get high and mighty and boast to yourself about how you don’t need anybody.
Correct. You don’t need anyone. You want someone.
Being single doesn’t need to be this trendy, cool thing to do. It doesn’t have to be a rite of passage.
We can still long for a partner and companionship at the same time we live our best, most fulfilled lives. Just because you are living a fun-filled life doesn’t mean you have to lose your desire to find someone to share it with. Having a partner by your side is an amazing thing and it’s something we all deserve to have.
What I’m getting at is, in the meantime, be the best, happiest you. Always strive to make the best of any situation. There is nothing more attractive, sexy and appealing about a person than someone who always finds a way to love life. Chase your dreams, but don’t forget who you are in the moment.
