I was recently scrolling through dating profiles and I came across a guy who wrote: It’s ok, if we hit it off I’ll tell people we met in Wegmans.
Why? Why do we have to lie to people about how we met? Why is telling people we met online dating such a terrible thing? Whether you are 20 or 60. Who cares?
There can be romance and excitement in meeting someone for the first time on the internet. Why not? You are still two people who have to be in the right place at the right time. Right? It can be just as much fun scrolling through profiles and finding the one who catches your eye as reaching for the same watermelon while getting groceries. Even better, I say, because you know right away if that person is single and looking. Boom.
Plus, there wouldn’t be a million and one online dating services and apps out there if everyone thought it was a terrible thing to do. Lots of people are doing it. Embrace it! Have fun with it!
One of my best friends met her husband because she decided to sign up for another month on match.com. She was just about to give up and figured, what the heck. They’ve been married ten years and she loves telling people that story. She loves telling people about their first date and how they talked and laughed for hours. She never cared or felt ashamed about how they met. They are a great a couple. A great couple who probably never would have crossed paths if it weren’t for online dating.
A lot of people approach online dating on the defense. I would say that about the gentlemen mentioned above who’d rather say he met someone while buying groceries instead of because he was swiping left and right. If you’ve made the choice to try online dating then you should try it with open arms. If you haven’t yet made the plunge, be open to possibilities. Be open to meeting someone you will be gitty over. If you are nervous and out of your comfort zone: Fake it till you make it!
Have that confidence we all say we are looking for. Show that you are not afraid to put yourself out there. Say to everyone, here I am! Ready to meet the right person for me! And, so what to how we met. After all isn’t building a life with that special someone what’s most important? Life is too short to get caught up in the details.
In the end, isn’t finding your sweetheart what you really want? Someone to share your life with? Someone to make plans with and to laugh and joke with. If you end up with that, if you can find someone to look at with love and affection, does it really matter how you met? You met. The real story isn’t the “how we met” story, it’s the “how we lived happily ever after” story.